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2025-02-01 02:53:14

AITA FOR ASKING MY DAUGHTER FOR THE SPECIFICS OF HER DETENTION

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I think it’s pretty weird you assume she’s bullying, and I think it’s really telling she doesn’t want you meddling with her relationships. Even for a hormonal and rebellious teen it doesn’t really make sense to not say the name of the other student so adamantly. It makes me think she knows you’re not a safe person. Do you happen to have bipolar or BPD? I wouldn’t expect many other posters here to know how to spot this kind of thing, but your behavior here and posts don’t paint a picture that your priority is your daughter in any way.

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I did fail her by remaining in a domestically violent relationship far longer (4 yrs) than I ever should have and she does resent me for it tremendously. As for the bi-polar and BPD, I have never been diagnosed with. I did check myself into a mental health facility when I was escaping the DV to seek treatment and they gave me a diagnosis of complex ptsd and adhd. They prescribed meds and outpatient treatment which I have continued to current day. (2 yrs after leaving dv) So yes u are accurate with your readings that she doesn't have trust/belief in me which is tears my heart apart. I think my guilt is why i haven't been able to maintain strong boundaries with her cause deep down I feel she has every right to be so hurtful and mean to me.

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Yeah, while I agree with you wanting to make sure this isn't something bigger or deeper it came across in the post as you being agro to your daughter from the beginning of the conversation. If you came into it with the assumption that she's a bully then yeah naturally she's gonna go on the offensive. I think you also fucked up by making it a power struggle. Don't fight for power over your kid, that's just unnecessary. You acknowledged in your post that the main reason you doubled down is because you don't want your daughter thinking she can refuse to tell you things when you ask about them.

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I most definitely understand and agree where you and the others who parrot similar advice are coming from. In the moment her direct defiance against such a simple inquiry caused me to feel suspicious when it may not have been warranted. But u are correct the power struggle got me nowhere. She just clammed up and I sat quietly waiting for her to answer for about 15 min and she didn't budge! So next time I will definitely try to find a better approach to communicate with her

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