Real life

Hi. I’m 33. I work full time, take online classes for my bachelors, I’ve got two kids and two dogs. I have a gym at home that I work out 4 days a week. I thought I was doing good until I hurt my own feelings by looking at progress pictures. I look the same as 6 months ago, shit even two years ago when I felt my biggest! Exactly the same. I cut out coffee, I only drink tea or water, I eat scrambled eggs for breakfast and one slice 12 grain bread, I eat steam fresh protein microwave things for lunch, snack on veggies and have a small dinner whatever we make for kids. Every time I scroll through anything fitness these people live at the gym and dedicate everything to fitness.. how to I squeeze this into real fast paced life? Meal prepping sucks on day 3, and seems like portions control and trying to lean toward healthier options isn’t paying off. Help? Am I just doing everything wrong? What works for you all? Fitness would have been easy in my twenties when you can eat like crap, work out and be skinny. I’m 5’7, 160 pounds and not moving the scale or changing in photos. WTF why do I keep lifting weights for nothing?!