Lack of respresentation of dominant trans men

Maybe it's just me looking in the wrong places, but I find that there's almost no representation of dominant/assertive trans men. And I'm not only talking about this in a sexual sense; that's just one facet. To state the obvious, it seems that trans men are almost always assumed to be more demure or less assertive than our cis male counterparts- of course, due to transphobia. I want to hear about other people's experiences on this. If you're a more dominant person, are people suprised by this part of your identity (when considered in conjunction with being trans)?

In reality, I'd argue that it's quite common for trans men (and other transmasc people) to be dominant or assertive. I've always been an assertive person, to the point of being labeled "bossy" as a child. I changed the way I interacted with people to still be assertive, but less pushy, to a fault even. Basically, before I came out, I had to assert myself while beating around the bush. After I came out and started passing as a man, I've taken this less-pushy assertiveness further, and oddly enough, it's actually led me to be somewhat popular. I've fallen into many a leadership position because I'm dominant, but not percieved as domineering. Of course, these are in circles/scenarios where people don't know I'm trans, or it's not really discussed.

On the other hand, when it comes up that I'm a trans man first, people expect me not to be dominant. This has led me to not even mention that I'm trans on things like dating profiles (I disclosed after I'd talked with someone and they didn't seem to be a creep). It has to be noted, though, that I'm gay, so interacting with gay cis men has its own dynamic as a trans man.

It took a long time for me to accept that I'm dominant because I was shamed for it my whole life. Before my egg cracked, and I mean *right* before, I was very active in the "role-reversal" community online. It was great to feel accepted as someone belonging to a group not conventionally percieved as dominant, but I think the "reversal" concept in "role-reversal" had an impression on me. It's always bothered me that in relationships, one party is viewed as being more dominant due to arbitrary factors.