why do parents struggle with the idea that kids are people too

constant threats, yelled at for the things she does, made to feel like my problems are all my fault, constantly playing the victim, dismissing my problems and calling me manipulative when people agree with me, reminding me that I don't have anyone else to go to when I have problems and refusing to even consider mental health issues from childhood trauma, poor treatment and emotional neglect

and all that means I'm the abusive one