"It's all in your head"

Update on my hEDS diagnosis journey with anemia that I posted about here.

So my previous experience with the doctor was validating, but today's experience was the opposite of all of that. I've just been gaslit by a doctor (different doctor). The haemotologist Dr that I saw that day at the haemotology dept. was unavailable, and I wasn't assigned that doctor anyway, she just happened to be there that day. So today I came in for my appointment with the haemotology dept, and I saw a different doctor.

I had to tell EVRYTHING again, and I could tell this doctor wasn't taking me seriously. I told him how I've been fainting since I was a kid, my heavy periods, my post partum hemorrhage, my hypermobility, my fatigue, everything I told the previous doctor. He looked at my lab results and said my anemia shouldn't be causing these problems, since it's "not that bad". And instead of him wanting to investigate WHY I'm feeling this way, he concluded, I think it's all in your head, maybe it has to do with your depression. I AM FUMING. I hate that my eyes started watering, because I was so angry. "Dr, may I remind you, I've been fainting since I was a kid. I DID NOT HAVE DEPRESSION AS A CHILD." He dared suggest it's depression/anxiety. I brought up how the previous doctor said it might be ehlers danlos. And yiu know what he said? "Ehler Danlos shouldn't affect you. It's just a cool genetic thing that means you are flexible." Meanwhile the previous doctor managed to make the connection between a possible connective tissue disorder with excessive bleeding, fatigue, depression, etc. But this doctor? GASLIGHTING ME ALL THE WAY.

I am so frustrated. I told him I just want answers, why am I like this. He said there's no answers and that I don't need answers, because I should be fine, because my labs aren't that bad. I SHOULD BE FINE BUT I AM NOT FINE. He won't do any more investigations except taking a test for thalassemia, which all my prev doctors have ruled out already.

I am so so so disappointed and frustrated and feel like I'm at a dead end. I was so hopeful going in today and I left bitter and angry. I have a feeling he feels I'm lying and faking it. He had the audacity to suggest it's a mental problem.