Why can’t I get past the first date?

A synopsis about me, I’m 26 years old. I’m pretty fit, muscular, and have been told by both strangers and people I know that I’m above average when it comes to attractiveness (not trying to sound cocky, just relating what they said ;) )

SPOILER: I’ve never been in a relationship before, I never tell anyone that.

Every girl I’ve met, probably about 7 or 8, I meet at a different social event. We talk for a bit, seems like we have great chemistry, amazing eye contact everything. I make plans for a « date », I never explicitly use that word. Just say, would you like to have a picnic or come over sometime- trying to know someone before I want to start being serious.

So! Here we are, meetup time. I’ve texted very sparingly up until this point, maybe a couple of times leading up to a couple of days before the meet up about how excited I am. The day of, the meetup, goes well!! We laugh a lot, make amazing eye contact again, maybe we go off on a nice dissertation about French loaf and various breads (I love baking!); I make sure to listen, be really friendly and don’t overstep boundaries.

I ask if she’d like to go on a date with me! She agrees, now I’m really excited! We hug, say our goodbyes. Now I get a text a couple of days later that’s she’s not looking for anything serious and that I’m a great guy. More than half of these girls said they just got out of a relationship.

Why does this keep happening? I don’t try to be friends with her, I move on because I would rather exert my energy on someone beyond excited to be with me… but then the girl I think I have that connection with, this happens again.

Frustrated and not sure what to do. All the signs are there that these girls enjoy my presence, so I’m lost.

TL;DR for all my homies out there: Keep getting told: “I just got out of a relationship” or something about being casual.