starting to feel like I need to choose between masculinity/sexual attraction and emotional intelligence/empathy. thoughts?

30F - I haven't felt attraction for a guy in a very long time - I really really need someone who is empathetic and can communicate their thoughts/feelings, but also I need masculinity to feel like they could take care of and protect me and a family. but it is starting to feel like I have to choose between the two.
Could you give me hope and tell me that it's possible (and hopefully even common) that masculinity and emotional intelligence can be a package deal?

EDIT: I've noticed a lot of people are taking this the wrong way. when I say masculinity, I mean it in a sense of someone who has physical strength (not washboard abs and a gymbro) someone rough and tough who can handle laborious tasks, someone who can allow me to be feminine and take care of things for me when I'm not able to do it. I don't think there is anything wrong with leaning *a little bit* into gender rolls, men and women were meant to work together and compliment each other. This goes without saying, but of course I bring my value to the relationship as well.
I noticed a lot of people also think that when I say masculine I don't want them to be vulnerable. but, this is exactly the point of the post. I want to find someone who has masculinity who can *also* be vulnerable and empathetic and emotionally intelligent.