Girlfriend blames me for starving (among other things)

I’m getting so fed up with all of this. My girlfriend and I (late 20s) live together, we both work full time and both have our own personal problems. But even so I shouldn’t have to deal with this multiple times a week.

Today is my off day. I made plans to make repairs on my girlfriend’s car. I follow her to work and leave her my truck for the morning while I go to the shop. I’m a mechanic so it’s not a big issue making time for repair but my days off are few and far between. I finish the repair and make it back to her work in time for lunch.

After lunch I make my way back home and do some much needed laundry. While that’s running I put away the dishes that were washed a few days ago and continue into the bathroom and clean in there too. I cleaned myself up and made cookies for us to enjoy when she got home.

5:00 rolls around and she’s pulling into the driveway. I open the garage and grab her lunch bag from the car. At this point she looks dead, which is normal, because she works herself really hard for her side hustle then goes into her full time job.

She immediately lays on the couch telling me about the bump on her head causing a bunch of pain. I offered to do things like rub her back with good lotion, make up a strong smelling essential oil cocktail thing to help with the headache and a few other things. I did some research and found something she agreed to try and I went to pick it up along with dinner.

This is where things go south. The same place they always do. I get home with the stuff for her head and chic fil a. I ask if she’d rather eat or try the stuff first. She wanted to eat. I bring her the food and sit down myself. I didn’t get 2 bites in and she throws the food down onto the table saying that it’s disgusting and wet? Idk. At this point in the relationship I don’t respond back to her attitude very often. It just gets me in trouble. I’m still trying to eat because this is my first meal of the day. I didn’t eat with her on lunch, just sat in the car with her. She asked me if I’m really going to sit there and eat after she said her food was disgusting. It irked me but I stayed calm and told her I’m sorry you didn’t like your food but do you expect me not to eat just because you don’t like your food? She responded with no I guess I’ll just starve. She sat for a second but got up and went to the bedroom slamming the door behind her. Like I said before this happens all too often.

I’ve been blamed for the house being dirty, the dogs having no manners, having a shitty Christmas and a bad birthday. I’ve been the reason for her anxiety and depression. I’ve been accused of not putting in enough effort or caring at all. And most recently I’m now responsible for her eating.

I was aware of her mental health issues before all this but the past 3 years out of 4.5 have only gotten worse. I know what I put into this relationship and I won’t let her take away from that.