How to prepare for a possibly inevitable separation

My husband has told me many times that he doesn’t love me. Our sex life went for a toss after our 2 yo was born but at least we were hugging. Now he doesn’t wants hugs or kisses anymore. He’s in a depression according to himself but refuses therapy. I have told him several times how I am craving for intimacy and he’s said I am free to go out and sleep with anyone else which I find very derogatory.

I don’t have friends or family in this country. Whatever friends/ acquaintances I have are mutual between me and hubby and I wouldn’t want to be in touch with them because of the shame I feel. Shame not just of a failed marriage but the lies of pretending to people that we are happy together. My parents have been and still are emotionally and verbally abusive and live in another country. There’s no way I want to be around them right now. How do I build a support network? Are there any support meetings for people going through this?

I am hoping some day I will have enough self respect to leave when he tells me to leave the 1000th time. He has been asking me to leave him almost since the beginning of our marriage whenever I would take up any grievance with him.