How to keep calm and decide

Hi everyone,

I wrote a post about a guy I matched with when I was living on the west coast and he on the east coast. We texted and chatted on the phone for a month before I moved back to the east coast (not so much for him but for myself…I missed my friends and family). We have been getting to know each other for almost three months now and I would love help on how to proceed with him. At 34F I would love to be married and starting a family by next year. About him: older, works in finance, never married and no kids. Has said he wants marriage and kids soon but doesn’t specify a timeline.

Notable experiences: - after our second date he told me it’s just us but I still struggle to understand if it means we’re exclusive. This community might* be proud to know I haven’t felt the need to date other people while I am with him but I wonder if we are on the same page

  • shares a lot about himself, his schedule, his therapy experiences, goals, and dreams. Told me he wants me to meet his mom. Shares a lot about his mom therapy sessions which he helped initiate

  • I told him early on I want to wait for marriage for sex and he said he respect my decision a lot. We’ve spent time in his apartment cuddle on the coach and despite him being very affectionate he hasn’t tried to push for physical intimacy besides kissing and hugging. He also recently mentioned an interest in overnight stays. I am very open to the idea but I told him I would want what we have to be defined first. He says sounds good. I am nervous about how we still wait until marriage with overnight stays…

  • when I told him I was considering this company for a job he told me I don’t have to work and he has the career he has because he can and wants to support a family and certain luxuries. However he recently encouraged me to apply to a new job that would be closer to home for me and it made me feel like maybe he does want me to work…? I told him I would like to get my MBA after kids and he was supportive of me going back part-time over full time

  • I have asked him before what his timeline is for having a baby and he said soon so I shared with him how I would love to be married and starting a family next year. He didn’t respond negatively but we did change the topic while still staying on the subject. He asked how my mom would feel about being a grandma. He talks about wanting to buy a house where everyone has their own room. I told him I saw a house with three bedrooms and an office in a kid friendly part of town and he told me to send over the listing and any others I might see.

  • I admitted to him I feel anxious about our relationship and we’re going/doing. He said we can talk about it at our next get together but he does like me a lot and enjoys getting to know me

  • EDIT: When I asked him what he would consider cheating he said emotional cheating. If you can’t admit I am having lunch or happy hour with the opposite sex who I met at xyz, etc than it’s considered cheating

I really like this guy and truthfully I definitely want to be married to him and have his babies! I do not want to mess this up so I am asking the community to be honest with me on whether he is a guy worth being in a relationship and if so, how to move this relationship to marriage.