No longer sexy at 34

One day last May my husband and i were talking. Somehow the conversation of why he never calls me hot or sexy came up. My husband told me I was sexy when we were 20 but at 34 I'm just lovely. I might get a hey beautiful or cutie (🙄) once a week or so, nothing more than that. Now if he does try to call me sexy (only because he saw it hurt me when he said I'm not longer sexy) it feel disingenuous. When we got back together when I was 30 he would still call me sexy. I had his baby, lost all of the baby weight and am back in shape. You can't even tell I had a baby, people literally tell me all of the time, because I have a very social face to face job. I'm a very fit 34 year old woman who is on top of my hygiene, diet etc. Other men have no problem indicating their attraction. But i dont want their attention, i want my husbands. Ive seen him check out other girls in front of me several times. Especially while i was pregnant. He is opposite . Never works out, barely showers (I literally have to tell him he needs to shower.) and just sits and smokes pot all day. I still love him that's why I'm with him. However I definitely long to lusted after. It sucks. I guess I just wonder if this is normal? All of my friends my age and older, husbands still call them sexy. I've honestly been down on my self for months since then. In September I found that he'd been looking at porn. He is a porn addict. We have a no porn rule. So now, that trust is broken again.This on top of him telling me I'm no longer sexy but just "lovely" caused me to massively crash out. I don't even know what advice I'm looking for. I just feel so down on myself amd I want to feel beautiful and sexy again.