UPDATE to ‘Overheard Husbands Conversation’. Please see my previous post.

UPDATE: Overheard husbands conversation.

So I finally confronted my husband lastnight as many people advised on my last post. Wasn’t surprised when he got a bit defensive. He basically said it doesn’t mean anything. His face looked guilty as hell. But anyway I think I broke down his walls and he started from the beginning. He said they are really good friends and he does call her his work wife. And said yes, he would like to keep in contact with her now that he has left work. He let me check his phone. There was nothing out of the ordinary. Noticed a few deleted messages from her or he wouldn’t respond but that’s about it. He was honest and said they have had dirty conversations before but then it stopped. He told me that they compliment eachother a lot apparently and he does think she is really attractive. Plus they flirt a lot and always have. He commented that she said she has wanted to show him dirty pics before but then she didn’t send them and he told her not to. She had also discussed with him about her toys which he engaged in. He said he has had thoughts about her in the past which he couldn’t help but knew it was wrong. He then told me that he had a conversation with her once or twice because he knew it might be getting out of hand where he basically said that nothing can happen between them and he would feel guilty.

I had heard enough by this time and my head was spinning. But after an hour or so and just getting some fresh air.. I contacted her on Facebook without him knowing. To my surprise, she actually pretty much said the same as him so I guess he is being slightly honest. She told me that she was in love with him and it happened slowly. Then she said that they had that conversation where he said nothing can happen. She then apparently told him she’d back off and maybe it’s best they are no longer friends and she told me that he panicked and said no and that he still wanted to talk to her.. she said after this, he continued ringing and messaging her in work so he basically didn’t stay away from her. She says they’ve not slept together. But apparently there has been lots of touching here and there on her hair, his leg, hugs etc and it nearly happened once but it didn’t go any further.

I’m actually in disbelief as you can imagine. I don’t know what to do or where to turn. Please be kind in the comments. I’m going through enough as it is. I’m kind of surprised he’s been so honest and I’m glad he is but this has been a lot to take in. He just had word vomit and everything came out of nowhere.