How do you stop yourself from building resentment?

I’m 23M and wife 23F married for 1.5 years. I work full time while she studies full time.

Initially we came to the agreement that she would quit her job and focus on study so she can focus on cooking, cleaning, etc. The issue is we have different cleanliness/work standards. I find myself frequently staying up late cleaning after I’ve worked 14 hour days (job and business). In those moments the resentment builds since I think she should be doing more. I know how toxic it is but those thoughts just come. I don’t blame her because she’s not used to the same cleanliness/work standards and I am patient.