Every attempt I make to initiate is a reason to not have sex with me

Every nude I (28F) send, every sexy text message I send, every time I touch him sexually, every mention that I’m horny has become a reason NOT to have sex with me.

He (28LL) feels pressured by every inkling I feel sexual desire, and that pushes him away.

So if I come onto him, that’s pressure. If I drop the matter and remove any sign I feel desire for him, we’ll never have sex again, because he’ll simply never initiate and not notice we’re having no sex. I’ve tried both.

But I’ll notice it’s not working after a couple weeks and try something again to spice it up or entice him. Which again will be perceived as pressure. Which will grow his resentment.

He doesn’t have trouble masturbating, because there’s no pressure on him. He just has trouble feeling desire FOR ME. Because I….show signs I desire him??

Nobody can make it make sense. I think his real problem is he wants me to drop the issue (wanting sex) and never bring it up again. Then he’ll be happy because he gets what he wants.