Kids and grandkids

I would appreciate a reality check cause I’m about to go batshit on my daughter and my husband is no help. 2 grandkids, both recuperating from the flu, ages 2 and 4. The 4 yr old is ahead in her recuperation, the 2 yr old had a temp of 99.1 this morning. So what does she do? She takes them to the local park, then to a coffee shop and now shopping. I know they are her children. She can do what she wants but as soon as they are sick she’s crying and calling us and omg it’s such a tragedy that her angels are sick. She’s posting asking for prayers for her babies.

But they are barely healthy so let’s hit the streets. I don’t get it. She’s 35, intelligent but has no common sense. This isn’t the first time this has happened. They’ve had Covid 2x, Hand foot and mouth, various ear and sinus infections. The 4 yr old also has had RSV.

I struggle to not step in and ask her WTF are you doing?

My husband says leave it alone and I know he’s right. However, I don’t appreciate her emotional push and pull. I’m not saying she doesn’t care for her children but she doesn’t learn.

Also, every time they get sick we get sick cause we provide care 2 days a week. My husband is currently sitting here hacking.