Husband forgot my 40th birthday

My husband forgot my 40th birthday, then remembered last minute, had the kids write cards in the morning, and when I returned home from work, there was an electric toothbrush on the table with a bow on it. Typically, I give FA about my birthdays, but as it is a milestone birthday, effort must be made no matter if I've explained what I want. Period. This should not have to be explained as if the man is new to this earth.

JUST LAST YEAR, I planned an EPIC 40th birthday surprise party for him. I had his old college buddies meet us in Sonoma. Each friend had their own bespoke surprise location and entrance (some in San Francisco, others in Sonoma), I planned and paid for 15 people to do a beautiful wine tour. I rented out several amazing airbnb cottages. I planned it all, and honestly, it was amazing. For my birthday, he basically didn't do anything (because that would require planning, which he did not do). Now he wants a redo (saying let's go out to dinner) - but you know what, I don't want him to be able to redo this and just get to move on.

Am I being unreasonable?