Career & Love

Hi everyone. I have a somewhat complicated base that I would like some advice or thoughts on it.

I am an undergraduate student who is finishing up this year and will be immediately starting my master’s program in the summer/fall. It’s between 3 schools and they’re all in different regions/timezones in America. I’m also in a LDR, and it’s been two years that we’ve been dating. We’re on opposite sides of the coasts. We’re somewhat on different life paths; I’m in my early 20s and a full time student, passions to advance career and he is in his mid 20’s with a full time job that he cannot move from

Here’s the problem: The school in my state has been my dream school forever and it’s also a top school. But then that makes me even further from him, becoming a 3 hour time difference (not a lot but you feel it!). He understands putting career first but also worries about the impact on us - even more further away because the only thing we have together is communication really. Of course he is one of my factors I am considering for my programs but also, it’s a school that means so much to me.

And then what if I get into my dream school and then also the school closest to him? Would it be worth to choose career advancement over love? Would I start to resent him if I chose to go to the school that would benefit us the most?

I see us long term, but after my career, so pause might be a concept. He sees us now to long term, and no pauses.

Am I supposed to choose love over career or career over love?